Our faith teaches us that even in times of great pain and sorrow, a peace that transcends all understanding can be found in the presence of God. In his presence, we are made aware of a God who loves and cares for each one of us beyond what we could ever imagine.

He has promised that one day, “He will wipe away every tear from our eyes and there will no longer be any death; there will no longer be any mourning or crying or pain (Rev 21:4),” and we will once again be reunited with those we love.

There is no timetable to grieving, and we must be patient with ourselves as we move through the pain and begin to breathe again. During this time, be kind to yourself, take time to rest, take walks, reflect and share the wonderful memories that bring a smile to your face and maybe even a chuckle or two.

Do not be afraid to seek help if the grief and sadness become overwhelming. During Jesus’ darkest hour the night before he was to be crucified, he needed his friends to be with him. Our God gave to us the gift of our humanity, and we need never to be afraid to seek the support of our family, friends and parish community during our darkest hour. 

Every parish must make it a priority to form and train a team of people who will reach out to their brothers and sisters who have lost family members. As the Body of Christ, we are his hands, we are his ears to listen with compassion and his feet to go whenever and wherever he sends us. 

“Grief never ends. But it changes. It is a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness or a lack of faith. It is the price of love.” ~ unknown 

Mary Neary is a motivational speaker, retreat leader and member of Sacred Heart Parish, Riverton, who has served in bereavement ministry.