By Lois Rogers | Features Editor

Faithful from around the greater Belmar area and way beyond braved highways barren of traffic lights and a landscape badly mangled by Hurricane Sandy to attend mass in St. Rose Parish with Bishop David M. O’Connell, C.M., Nov. 4.

They came, despite gas rationing and hard to navigate roadways realigned by the storm, to thank God for surviving what is said to be the worst hurricane to hit New Jersey in modern history.

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They were looking for hope, as Msgr. Edward J. Arnister, pastor of St. Rose, put it while standing in the sanctuary of the semi-dark and very cold church just before the 10 a.m. Mass began.

Before the line subsided, he estimated that 800 people, many carrying small children or escorting elderly relatives, overflowed all the aisles and spilled over into the vestibule.

“They are looking for a spark of fire in an all too dark world,” Msgr. Arnister said as he watched a seemingly endless line of people of all ages from St. Rose and parishes as far away as St. Aloyisus, Jackson, fill the 500-seat, Victorian Gothic structure to overflowing.

Before they returned to their dark and often damaged homes, that spark would indeed be lit.

Not in Our Lifetime

From the conversations overheard just before Mass began, it was clear that many in attendance had survived generations of Jersey hurricanes, including last summer’s dangerous Irene; but never one as fierce as Sandy, something Bishop O’Connell acknowledged as he began his homily.

“It’s good for us to be here together, especially those first responders who have not even slept in the last week,” the bishop said to sustained applause. Then he paused slightly and reassured everyone in the church with these words: “We are going to get through this together, with the Lord.”

“Dear sisters and brothers in Christ, this has been an unbelievable week,” he said. “Even though we knew it was coming, we didn’t grasp what that would entail.”

In the four counties of the Trenton Diocese, many parishes, most especially along the shoreline of Monmouth and Ocean counties and the bay and back waters of Mercer and Burlington, were hit by Sandy.

In a number of coastal parishes, including St. Rose, the damage was severe. All of the buildings on the campus in downtown Belmar suffered flooding ranging from 2 to 9 feet. The schools were impacted the most, with St. Rose Elementary School losing its roof and St. Rose High School suffering a level of damage that is still being calculated.

Bishop O’Connell visited Belmar shortly after the storm, one of the many stops he made shortly after Sandy struck. “I spent the past few days visiting parishes, including here,” he told the assembly. The bishop said he was stunned by the amount of destruction and the way Sandy “affected in every way possible,” the people of the area.

He spoke briefly of the overwhelming interest in the storm from media around the world including the BBC which reached him during a visit to St. Benedict Parish, Holmdel on Nov. 3, as the first of many diocesan distribution centers opened.

The reporter, a Catholic, he said, “wanted to know how is it that an all powerful, loving God can let things like this happen.”

In a voice rich with emotion, the bishop explained:  “unfortunately, there is no answer that would satisfy the reporter… God is not the cause of evil in our lives,” he said. Though evil things happen, “God has a bigger picture that we cannot see.”

He encouraged everyone to “continue to call God our father” and to think of Church as family. In these days of suffering, he said, “the best we can do” is unite our suffering with the suffering of the Lord.

“Luckily for us,” he said, surveying the crowd where many strove unsuccessfully to keep the tears from flowing unabated down their cheeks, “there is more joy, more happiness than (evil)…” and exhorted them to focus on that as they go about the task of rebuilding their community.

In concluding remarks that did spark more than a chuckle from many, he said: “So brothers and sisters in this full church, it is time for the bishop to shut up and for us to get going and to love the Lord with our whole heart especially in these (trying) times.”

After the Mass concluded, the church rocked with applause as the bishop presented Msgr. Arnister with an advance of $100,000 from the Diocese so that the work of mitigating the storm damage could begin at once rather than waiting for insurance proceeds to be received.

Msgr. Arnister acknowledged how important a moment this was, when “everyone comes together and stands together for each other.”

Standing Together

Waiting for the crowd to surge down the steps were members of the parish St. Vincent De Paul Conference who manned a well organized table where those affected by Hurricane Sandy could fill out cards detailing their immediate needs.

“We’re seeing if people need help, if they need blankets, clothes, food,” said Carol DeBartolo, conference president. “It’s so cold and people need to be able to contact people. Most people here have no power and a lot of relatives in the same position. We need to reach them.”

As Bishop O’Connell reached the bottom of the steps, he headed immediately for the table and embraced DeBartolo and the other Vincentians and thanked them for their presence and their diligence in reaching out. Then, just as he had done before the Mass, he turned to the lingering throng, to offer, one by one, his expressions of compassion and reassurance.

Looking on, parishioner Carleen Defino’s face lit with a smile. “Having the bishop here today gave us such a sense of encouragement,” as did the check to help with the cleanup, said Defino. “It was so important that he was here, that he took the time to come. We were thrilled to have him.”

Like many at the Mass, DeBartolo, Defino and Eileen Ziesmer, also a Vincentian, said that their properties had been spared the full ravages of the storm.

There’s a new saying in Belmar, the women said, “Everyone’s safe. Just no power,” DeBartolo said. “No damage, no power. We’re lucky,” Ziesmer added.